Allegedly first quoted in an Amarillo paper in 1959, “hurt people hurt people” has been tossed around for awhile to remind us to take step back before reacting to our own hurt but slinging it on others, and more currently (and more selfishly) to keep us mindful of why someone else may be mean to us.
Remember that people are the least lovable when they are most in need of love.
This was a lesson that, once I learned it, made dealing with difficult people a little easier. Empathy improves relationships. This idiom acknowledges that happy people, who feel secure and accepted, aren’t mean people. A person acts like an asshole because they are hurting.
What happens when you apply this rationale to yourself?
Could it be that a body that is broken or “disfigured” needs more care, compassion and kudos than whatever you have told yourself is an ideal body?
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